A Little Mentoring & Guidance Can Go A Long Way.
Being addicted to drugs, you cross the path of some very interesting and unsavory people, and most likely, one of those people was your drug dealer.
What you see of your drug dealer is usually very one dimensional. Once we enter into recovery, it’s very hard to see past their negative behaviours.
When I asked Jim R, a reformed dope dealer about his drug dealing identity, he proclaimed: “I was a dope dealing, paper making, life destroyer! Now, What?”
Under the surface however, they are just as damaged as you are, and in most cases, their activities are not done with malice but rather out of desperation, misguided fantasies and doubt. Drug Dealers need recovery too, and in most cases, it’s just as hard for them as it is for the addict.
There are two types of drug dealers; the guy who uses and deals to support his habit and the guy who doesn’t use but has learned drug dealing as the only way he or she can earn a living. Many are sucked in by the lure of the ‘baller’lifestyle by gangs, when in reality, most never make it out with the financial fantasy they bought into.
I have seen many dope dealers pass through drug rehab and be very successful, but I have also seen the opposite, where they just end up going back to square one again.
Whatever the case may be, one of the most commonly asked questions for either one of these dealer types is: ‘After I turn my life around, what do I do?’
My goals here is to give some advice on what to do.
For some, this is all they know. Never holding down a job, never really acquiring any skills, in and out of jail, and in some instances had very little schooling. They may come out of a drug rehab program clean and sober, or turn their life around on their own, all full of piss and vinegar, determined to start a new life, but have no real point of direction.
My Advice to Reformed Drug Dealers Ready for Direction
- Don’t give up before you start. It’s easy to put up roadblocks early. Let’s start with the fundamentals – work experience and generating income.
- Know your break-even. Before you get started, you need to know what your monthly break-even is, so you can work towards hitting that break-even. First off, be realistic, cut out all the crap and expenses you really don’t need. Then, tally all of your expenses. Once you have that number you can start looking for an income source that aligns with your break-even.
- Start a list. Grab a pen and paper, and start listing out all the skills you know you have, previous jobs you may have done, previous employers, people you have helped out, and from here you can start building a resume. Unsure how to build a resume? There are plenty of resources out there. The internet is filled with hundreds of different sites for resume building I will narrow it down to a few good sites that will help you build a quality resume: SlashCV, CVmaker, MyPerfectResume, and Resume.com are some good places to start looking. Building a resume is about highlighting your skills and experience; even if you do not have a lot of either something can still be built out of what you do have. It is about getting creative with your wording and really looking at all your experience and putting it down on paper.
- Start the job hunt. Look at everything possible; you may not find the perfect job, but it may be a place to start to at least start generating some income and building some kind of experience. Some good sites are Workopolis, Monster, Indeed, and even Craigslist, all of these sites will have postings for jobs and some of them will help you create profiles where you can up-load your newly created resume. Just remember that you have to start somewhere, and always keep looking ahead to the future. You may not find the perfect job, but it could be a start in the right direction.
- Volunteer! Community involvement and volunteer work; the reality about dealing drugs is you provided substances to people that played a destructive part in their life Yes some of the responsibility falls on the user of course, but you can still be accountable for your role. The most wonderful thing about community involvement and volunteer work is the unbelievable experience you can get from touching other people’s lives in positive ways, and truly making a difference for them. Ask yourself; ‘What value do I bring to my community?’
This gives so much back to you as an individual and it will allow you to grow further as a human being, and gain valuable life experience in the process. Take a look at what is in your local area, it could be boys and girls clubs, homeless shelters, community centers, rehabilitation centers; helping other addicts, local churches etc. People need the help, and given what you have overcome it only makes sense to give something back.
I have tried to touch on a few starting points here , but there is so much more that former dope dealers can do to make their new life track a success.
Try some things out and don’t be afraid of new challenges that will help build experience and valuable skills you can take with you. The sky is really the limit, and limitations that are there are only the ones you put there.
If you are a reformed drug dealer than needs a little mentoring and guidance, send an email to email@example.com explaining your situation and we will try and connect you with a business mentor one on one.
Author: Nick Bruce Hayes
I Was a Dope Dealing, Paper Making, Life Destroyer. Now What Do I Do? ©