6 Steps to The Truth About Your Relationship With Alcohol.
Denial: an assertion that something said, believed, alleged, etc., is false:
Am I an Alcoholic?
Does it really matter? Do you really need to run the gamut of quizzes, assessments, diagnostics, tests, professional analysis, and multiple checklists in order to help you answer this question?
There are plenty of articles written by esteemed addiction professionals that are easily found with a simple Google Search, and most will walk you through a list of questions you need to answer, and if you answer 6 out of 10, presto, you’re an alcoholic. Really?
My question is, do you really need that 6 out of 10? Do you really need the label of alcoholic? And if so, when you do find out that you are an alcoholic, is that what you need to stop? Am I an alcoholic? Hmmm…
I’m gonna go out on a limb here. YOU ALREADY KNOW!
Remember this. All alcoholics are in denial in greater or lesser degree, and part of the reason has to do with the term: alcoholic.
Even the aware alcoholic who can own his shit, has trouble facing the truth.
Alcoholism is a manipulation of the mind. It’s what I like to call; a good ‘ol mind f#%k. And your pursuit to chase the question; “Am I an alcoholic?” is an external pursuit that prevents you from looking in, and looking inwards is where you will find the truth.
Here is my secret formula for finding the truth about your relationship with alcohol.
- Find a quiet space.
- Close your eyes.
- Take 3 deep breathes.
- Ask yourself one question: “Do I have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol?”
- What is the first answer that comes to mind? Quick. Don’t think.
Now, here’s my forecast. Your answer was YES!
The key here is to NEVER ask: “Am I an alcoholic?”
Asking am I an alcoholic will put up road blocks to the truth. Your mind will not allow you to see the truth.
Am I an alcoholic is harsh, it’s ugly, it’s an attack on your ego and self. Asking Am I an alcoholic will only lead you to denial.
Quick example. Close your eyes and visualize and alcoholic. What do you see? What do you feel? What does the term; alcoholic mean to you?
The very fact that you took the time to look up this article on Google and read it in its entirety tells me that you indeed have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol and it’s time to do something about it.
Your mind will allow you to accept the truth that maybe, just maybe your relationship with alcoholic isn’t the most healthy, but asking “Am I an alcoholic?” – Forget it, mind shut down, total denial, let’s keep drinking.
Finding the truth sometimes takes a softer approach to really get the answer you need.
So now that you can accept that you have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, what do you do about it?
This is when professionals can really help you navigate self, discover the driving forces behind this behavior, and put you on the path of recovery.
If you want to speak with an addiction advisor and find out what level of care would be appropriate, you may contact, in Canada, the DRS Addiction Hotline 1-877-254-3348 and in the U.S. Addicted.org 1-800-304-2219
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